friendship - Forum - The Frugivore Diet

Looking for a New York based friend, potential girlfriend

2016-09-08T00:57:45.000Z

Hey all,

So today I realized that I've been celibate for two years. No particular reason either. Since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 2 1/2 years ago I only dates two girls and only slept with one of them. Since then I've been crushing everything else at life. I've been able to travel, bike like crazy, fitness on par (Vegan) and run a YouTube channel (Manual Pedal) that's slowly growing. I think the only area where I struggle is with hooking up with girls. I think for the most part it's because I don't go out to party as much as I used to.

I have a great personality and love to ride, cook, dine out when necessary, travel, read and share. One of my biggest strengths is contribution. I love to give back to people who need help and seeking personal growth. I believe I'm able to do this because I love who I am, and now able to do this. I wrote down a list of things that's growing that I would want in the First Lady (next potential girlfriend). I won't list them all but she would have to be on the same page or similar to what I am doing or at least have goals for herself. It would be awesome if she biked as well, vegan, and loved to cook and travel.

Is that asking for to much? Anyway I'm based out of New York and If anyone is down to go for a bike ride let's give it a shot. Cheers!

Youtube +Blog updates!

2016-03-28T20:54:11.000Z

Just wanted to let you all know what I am up to. I have relaunched my blogwww.runway5ft2.com and I am on Youtube as Rochelle Blum doing daily videos 37 and counting!

Staying carbed up and making a difference near and far.

Rochelle

Imagine something Like this!

2015-05-15T16:26:57.000Z

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qPKKtvkVAjY&feature=youtu.beWatch this awesome video and tell me if it looks like fun!

Stumbling along in the dark :c

2014-08-05T02:54:56.000Z

To start, I am seeking a RT4 Friend I can speak with, receive advice and encouragement

I went so very long going without overeating and purging, and well today and a few days ago I broke my promise to myself and husband. The issue is the food I make for my husband. We are both vegan and I make some damn fine food. It's quite difficult not guiltily cramming down homemade fresco bean burritos, brownie bottom peanut butter "cheese" cake, and TVP Chili, so on and so forth once my husband heads off to work. I am often stuck at home and let's just say I don't have any friends around where I live.

I need RT4 like my cat needs constant pampering. I have a long history with punishment one way or another. If I mess up my eating habits, I just decide that I should eat whatever and toss it up. It got to a point where I used to cut myself, which luckily I have overcome. Please don't think I am going to be an emotion vampire either, I know personally how draining that is! (besides I do see a therapist occasionally)
I feel that if I could possibly socialize with someone, have a RT4 friend, it would motivate me to make the right choices and be more kind to myself.

I am even interested in perhaps drawing or sending care packages like I did when my husband was overseas, I really miss doing that!

~bonus picture of Valhalla below~

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Problems with a SAD best friend

2012-07-01T10:31:21.000Z

I've noticed since my transition that I am confronted with emotions that I have been keeping (partially subconsciously) bottled up with a friend of mine who's neither vegan nor someone that I can really share my joys, triumphs and overall improvements in my health with. So harsh as it may sound, even if she doesn't eat everything that most SAD people eat, she's still brainwashed, SAD, and undercarbed because she believes in the standard food pyramid, that bread is healthy, crap in moderation is okay to eat, that not everyone's body is capable of eating like I eat, etc. I could just scream sometimes and I'm angry with myself for not really making her clear that I don't want to hear that. She is really close to me and that can hurt even more because my lifestyle is the core of my life and nothing hurts more when people whom you deeply care about don't get it or don't even try it.

Nevertheless, I know that sooner or later I'm going to have to confront her. But I'm all for non-violent communication. My friend is all about honesty as well. HOWEVER she can be extremely tempermental and impulsive and has even lashed out at me once, which really hurt and I (such a big sissy) should have said something about it after she cooled off. She was also raised anti-authority, and I notice through her although it has made her out to be an independent, self-sufficient, and mostly confident woman, it also has a con or two such as what I've mentioned about her being tempermental and always having to have the last word.

She also has her own (psychological) problems, including being a victim of burn-out syndrome (she really pushes herself at work and in vocational school - we met through our apprenticeship), though motivation is great and I have that as well, BUT I do not go to such unhealthy extremes. In this other topic she has really low self-esteem because she has had only bad relationships (each one worse than the last) 5x and the longest lasting one lasted 4 months. She is afraid of being alone and can't stop comparing herself to people in relationships who at least appear to be happy. I am one of the main people she's been crying her heart out too. As touched as I am that she says that I give her strength, her depressive state (especially this one that she's in at the moment due to a jerk who lied to her the entire 3 and a half months in the relationship and dumped her out of thin air) can be unbearable and doesn't do me good, especially when she has mentioned thoughts of wishing she were dead (among others).

My summer holiday starts next week and will be 3 weeks long and I'll be spending those 3 weeks with my friend. We've planned a photo-tour for as many towns/cities/villages outside of/near Berlin. She's going to seek therapy and at least realises she can't constantly depend on me and her family because she hates to make us worried about her. I'm at least glad she recognises that. She also told me she will not waste the time talking about her good for nothing ex, only a few times if she really has a down moment. But she means she is really looking forward to spending time with me.

I would love to give her the best advice ever: go 811-lfrv! It would at least give her the boost and through better nutrition she would be more able to confront her problems in a better manner. That's what I believe at least! But NO, I'm "not allowed" to say that, because I'll only get such lame answers as. "You know I tried going vegetarian once, but my iron levels got so bad!", "Not everyone is (bodily) capable of doing that!", "I already eat healthfully since my food combination diet!".

I also have no problem of being neighbours with her and living in the same building, but recently she expressed interest of living with me. Because of her depressive state I didn't express my opinion because in this state she is most unpredictable. But I have been waiting my whole life for an exclusively vegan flat, and now preferably a 811-lfrv-flat.

We do have common hobbies and interests and have been through so much together since our apprenticeship began. The best and most ideal solution for me would be to do things with her revolving around our hobbies and interests, but also to maintain some distance as well, as she does not share my core values. I am grateful she has always accepted and understood that when she goes out to eat - whether alone, with other friends or with her family that it is a no-go by me. Nevertheless, I feel and know that an intervention is necessary. Yet I'm afraid that when she experiences my (long hoped for) assertiveness she will say something like: "How come you tell me this now?!" or something like that.

I know that what can't be peacefully resolved is no longer worth my time. It's just hard, but I know I must discuss this with her. Though the question is when and how - given her depressive state and her vulnerability to do things she will later regret.

What do you all think? I am thankful for any tips as well as personal experiences.

Many thanks in advance.

Lonely Newbie

2012-05-13T04:29:30.000Z

So I am new to living a Raw Vegan lifestyle and looking for some cool people to get to know and talk with on here. Pretty much my story. I was brought up eating meat and ate lots of carbs through pasta etc. I loved my fruits and veggies and was picky about my meats but ate "healthy" most of the time. On my sweet 16 I was tipping more than 200lbs, about a week later I saw a video on Peta.com called "Meet your Meat." I was devastated to the point where I could not eat anything for about 3 days in fear that I would unknowingly be eating meat. I told my parents that I wanted to become vegan, they told no and said things like "Where are you going to get protein?" and "If you are living under my house you will still eat eggs and dairy so you can get enough protein!" So I did, I became a Lacto-Ovo Vegetarian. I was one for close to 7 years till I met my boyfriend. I never had Sushi in my life and he wanted to share the experience with me so the 1st time eating sushi was my 1st time eating meat within 7 years! (I had also so got blood-work results back saying that I have a genetic clotting disorder called Factor V Laden, my mom was diagnosed with the same disorder after her stroke at a young 40 years old. So because I was "sick" I thought "will maybe if I eat meat I'll get "stronger" and be able to fight this disorder. On that desperate answer I became a Pescatarian. About a year later being a fish eater haha, me and my boyfriend are now both about 1 to 2 months being Vegans (me a littler easier than him seeing I was already a Vegetarian He has never given up meat and is still having some difficulties.) But anyway we are slowly working our way into a Raw Vegan lifestyle and I would love to find more people on this site. Get at me :P

Peace and Love

Amanda Lee

Lion Hugs And Kisses The Woman Who Rescued Him.

2010-10-28T15:38:23.000Z

This woman found an injured lion and nursed him back to health, then she gave the lion to a local zoo and this is the way the lion reacted when he saw the woman the rescued him again.

every bond ...

2009-10-22T18:24:22.000Z

this is a great video of friendship with a powerful conclusion!http://www.vegsource.com/articles2/media_bella.htmas the saying goes,"Every bond that forms between species, provides hope within our own."(it's worth keeping in mind when we think about lucy.)in friendship,prad