Hellbent on Destruction

Trying to get a 58 yo father to part with meat and a 58 yo mother to actually eat more than 800 calories per day.

Dear O' dad gained 30 pounds recently and is pushing past 290 pounds.

He sees the way that I eat & he thinks that he can eat unlimited carbs...and drench them in fatty chicken & olive oil *sigh*

I had a sit down with him and told him that chicken is not going to work, that there is no 'good fat' when eating a high carb died; hopefully it sinks in!

My mother was obese, after having 3 kids, but managed to drop down to a size 2 through starvation and intense exercise in her mid 50's.

She was great for 3-4 years and then the weight just exploded around her midsection; no matter what she eats it turns to FAT.

I asked her if she got fat on fruit sugar, rice, potatoes, & corn or if she got fat on fat, but she just rolls her eyes and eats her 200 calorie meal.

It is sad watching your parents fk themselves over but what can you do?

Sometimes the only thing that you can do is be an example; envy of results will bring about change.

Do an ironman triathlon and force your family to show up, root for you and watch you cross the finish line. All you can do is be an example of fitness and health. Show them how much more energy you have to live and love. Shower them with kindness and explain the source of your energy (I tell them about God too ).

I watched my father kill himself slowly over a period of 10 years with stress, poor diet, and no exercise. RIP. There is nothing you can do but be a good example, and don't get yourself sucked into the pit of self destruction. I learned an important lesson from my ordeal....GET THEM YOUNG. When people are old and bitter, they are very reluctant to change. When people are kids, teenagers, young adults...it is very hard for them to resist you when you insist on showing them better ways to live their lives.

When you are dealing with parents/grandparents sometimes they are too stuck in their ways. I shed a lot of tears over this already, ultimately we can only control our own lives. The good news is that there is enough pain and suffering where there are always people out there who could use your help.

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BananaStatesofMurica! RAW OR DIE September 25, 2014 at 8:08am

Do an ironman triathlon and force your family to show up, root for you and watch you cross the finish line. All you can do is be an example of fitness and health. Show them how much more energy you have to live and love. Shower them with kindness and explain the source of your energy (I tell them about God too ).

I watched my father kill himself slowly over a period of 10 years with stress, poor diet, and no exercise. RIP. There is nothing you can do but be a good example, and don't get yourself sucked into the pit of self destruction. I learned an important lesson from my ordeal....GET THEM YOUNG. When people are old and bitter, they are very reluctant to change. When people are kids, teenagers, young adults...it is very hard for them to resist you when you insist on showing them better ways to live their lives.

When you are dealing with parents/grandparents sometimes they are too stuck in their ways. I shed a lot of tears over this already, ultimately we can only control our own lives. The good news is that there is enough pain and suffering where there are always people out there who could use your help.

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